So this is what 30 feels like.
They say that your 20s is when you really find out what you’re good at and are passionate about. Now I may not fully agree because I have a lot of friends who found that at 35, but in my case, that’s accurate. This decade is also when a lot of important milestones usually happen. You fall in love, you get married, you (maybe) have a kid (or two, or three), you get your first job, first promotion, maybe buy a car, find a place if you’re lucky. It’s all part of being in your 20s. Of course you enter the decade with that plan in mind but by now you know that it doesn’t always go in the direction that you want it.
Such is life. Or is it? I’ve never been the type of guy who would dream small. Sure, not all of my big dreams come true. I’m still waiting to shoot and direct my first full feature film or at least something that lasts longer than 7 minutes. I’m not in the PBA, I still can’t spin on a skim board, and I haven’r written my novel yet. But these dreams are still there, and I’ve never stopped dreaming new dreams. I’ve been blessed enough to be where I am now and I owe a lot to my family and my God for taking me here.
Along the way I’ve discovered that I’m a creature of habit. I do have some bad ones but I’ve also developed some that have helped me find some success and contentment.
They say in my church that worrying is a sin and I completely agree. Worrying just means that you don’t trust that God will help you through it and if it still didn’t happen in the end, then it wasn’t meant to be. Now worrying isn’t the same as being concerned. It doesn’t mean that I’m not concerned about anything when I don’t worry about my children or my business. It just means that I won’t waste time thinking about the bad things that might happen and instead think about what I can do to make sure they don’t happen. Now never is a big word and I can’t say that I’ve never been worried. But when that does happen, I catch myself and remind myself that God is in control and if you’ve done your part then that’s all you can do. So why waste time worrying about it?
I’m fortunate that my career actually requires me to maintain a certain physique and fitness level. But even if this wasn’t the case, I think that I’d still be engaging in at least some form of daily exercise. Some days it may be just 3 sets of 10 push ups and a few burpees, other days it may be an olympic lifting session and a few games of pick up basketball. It doesn’t matter as long as there’s some form of purposeful movement going on. Our generation is still young in age but our bodies are getting older at a faster rate than the generations before us. Why? My opinion is the double edged sword of technology is to blame. Everything’s so automatic now which makes us A. impatient and B. masters at sitting. Let’s try to break that so we can call ourselves young 30 year olds.
Drink plenty of water
Water is quite literally life for me. I stopped measuring the water that I take in because I know that if I get thirsty, I’m already dehydrated. So I rarely get thirsty because I don’t let it get that far. This was a hard habit to form but I knew that if I could drink enough water so that I don’t get thirsty during the day then I’m taking care of my body. A lot of things happen when you drink enough water. You eat less and snack less. Your skin improves, your kidneys and urinary tract remain healthy, and your metabolism increases. If you want to drink more water, here’s how:
I thank my parents for instilling in me the love for reading and I thank my wife for keeping that love alive. I like to balance my fiction and non-fiction reading although lately it’s been mostly non-fiction. You learn a lot of things when you read but what reading has really taught me is to be patient and to let the story unfold in due time. We live in such a fast paced world where everyone seems to be in a hurry to get to the top. We say how we hate being in a rat race but then we race with everyone else to get the latest of whatever gadget apple is pushing nowadays. I’m not saying those things are bad, but what reading has taught me, is the value of the process. You have to enjoy it, to get the most out of it, and learn the most from it. The same applies in life.
I was never the type of coach who would go all military on you and yell at you to drop and give me 20. I’ve learned that people react more positively if you treat them with the same positivity. That’s why I always smile even when my clients are already killing me with their eyes because of their finisher sets. Seriously though, well, don’t be too serious all the time. Even though they are some exceptions, you will see that people will open up to you more and even helping you more when you approach them and talk to them with a smile on your face. Play some games, have some fun, and keep that smile on.